The second Sunday in May takes on new meaning when you are still trying to get pregnant.
Nearly every other holiday is inclusive—everyone can celebrate New Year’s, July 4th or even Valentine’s Day … but Mother’s Day can feel like an exclusive, member’s only club.
Midwest Reproductive Center is especially sensitive to how difficult this day can be for our patients. No matter how resilient you are, watching the world pay homage to moms piles on to the pain you feel each month.
Of course you want to get pregnant before another Mother’s Day rolls around, but here it is—May 10th, and the stick is still negative.
Dr. Dan Gehlbach and his team have decades of experience in helping couples cope with infertility. We have compiled our best words of wisdom for surviving Mother’s Day with infertility.
Talk with an overcomer.
You may have friends who have given birth after dealing with infertility, a support group or an online community that you follow. We believe that you can benefit greatly from talking with women who have walked this path and have miracles to show for it. Our own Kim Cornwell, APRN, struggled with recurrent miscarriage and now she and her husband have three beautiful children. You can read her story here: Your nurse is an experienced women’s health provider and she’s experienced at dealing with infertility, too
Find your happy place.
Mother’s Day is not the ideal time to try that new buzzed about brunch spot. If it’s family friendly, there will be adorable newborns and toddlers there dampen your mood. Try dinner instead, a later seating during nap times or something a little more sophisticated if you do venture out for Mother’s Day brunch. We like Kansas City favorites YaYa’s, Blue Bird Bistro and The Bristol. Or, try hosting a brunch for your single friends or favorite family members and avoid the crowds altogether.
We can’t emphasize this enough—you should find ways to be kind to yourself and to each other as a couple. Mothers are nurturing, and you will one day direct this loving-kindness to a baby. Right now, YOU are worthy of attention and TLC. Book a couples massage, try a new yoga studio or go for a walk at the Loose Park Rose Garden. Stop and smell a few, and remember that: “this, too, shall pass.”
Next year, your Mother’s Day may be very different, and you will help someone else who is surviving Mother’s Day with infertility.
If you have not begun your journey toward overcoming infertility, contact us at Midwest Reproductive Center. We can help.